Place on the scale, hu? I guess that is one way to put it, but your place only changed because you have changed. I think it's less important to worry about the scale and more important to worry about how you have changed. Your driving force is no longer your anger at your mother, but something else.

[He makes a helpless motion with his hand.]

And when you look at it that way, it is a lot harder. When we change, we are often blind to just what that change is.